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She Doesn’t Need to be Saved.

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You may be drawn to the mischief in her dark eyes, but it’s the joy found in her melodious laugh that makes your heart yearn for more. She knows that life is meant to be lived to the fullest and wants to experience everything it has to offer. 

She isn’t afraid to swim naked by the light of the moon or shed a tear over anything that touches her heart.

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She feels everything deeply and expresses herself openly. She is the kind of woman who appears to be “too much” for most men. But “the one” will look at her like she is the greatest adventure he’s ever set eyes on.

No ordinary man will be enough for her. She needs a champion—a man who is brave enough to stand with her in the eye of a hurricane because he appreciates its magnificence. If you look at her and feel an equal mix of excitement and fear, then you might be ready to embark on the quest to earn her heart.

At first glance, she may look impulsive and chaotic. The man for her will be able to see beneath the surface; he will adore the fact that she leads with her heart, and employs a massive amount of passionate energy for anything she believes in.

A woman like her will only cross your path once in a lifetime—erupting life like wildfire and igniting everything in sight.

Whether you choose to go the distance with her or let the opportunity slip through your fingers, you will never be the same. If you are willing to level up and be the warrior who this wild woman needs, she will give you all her love.

A love like hers will make you feel brighter than the sun’s glow on an endless summer day. And her fire will be enough to keep you both warm forever.

A woman like her has big dreams that continue to grow; a mediocre life will not suffice. She requires spontaneity and fun amidst the mundane. She is insatiable in her quest to discover all the things that make her feel alive.

At times she can become consumed with her desires and get lost amongst clouds. She will need to be pulled gently back down to earth. If you can be her anchor, she could be your wings.

She will push you out of your comfort zone and show you the beauty in coloring outside the lines. Be prepared to grow exponentially with a woman like her by your side—she won’t be standing still.

Her standards are higher than the tallest mountain, and you will have to reach the top if you want to build a life with her. She will expect more from you than you’ve ever given before. If you’re able to rise to the challenge, you will discover she was worth it.

She’s been through a lot and won’t fall for bullsh*t, so don’t even try. She learned to trust her intuition a long time ago and will walk away from anything that feels even slightly off.

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Trust is the most important thing for a woman like her. There were times in her life when she wasn’t sure if she could even trust herself. You are going to have to show her that she can count on you. She will have doubts that randomly creep into her mind, and you will have to assure her that you encompass the solidity of rock.

Be willing to reassure her when she needs it; remain calm when she’s spiraling, and laugh with her when the green-eyed monster rears its face.

Communicate as openly and directly as possible. She wants to know what you’re feeling and why. She needs to see that you’re as genuine as she is. You are going to have to expose the vulnerability you typically try to hide. The shell of a man simply won’t do for a woman like her.

She needs to understand your drives and motivations. She will help you go the distance and achieve all of your goals as long as you are just as supportive of her dreams and aspirations.

She will test you and push you to your limits because she doesn’t want to waste her time. She must be certain you can handle whatever the world throws your way. She knows that life is unpredictable, and she needs someone who will not falter during the darkest days.

She has already been to hell and back; she has survived everything that tried to break her. She knows she has what it takes to thrive in the face of adversity. Do you? 

This woman has the fierce heart of a warrior. She is always ready to go to battle for others or herself if the necessity arises.

She has found her balance between being soft and strong and embraces both the darkness and the light within. A heart like hers is rare in this world; don’t ever take it for granted.

She’s been broken, but she put the pieces of herself back together even better than before—all on her own. She doesn’t need saving; she just needs an occasional reminder that she’s not alone on this journey.

Her reactions may sometimes seem extreme because her flight-or-fight response is high. Recognize that they come from a previous place of fear, and make sure she’s never afraid of you.

Be patient and make sure she knows you’re not going anywhere. If she really feels she can count on you, she will eventually stop having one foot out the door.

Understand her need for an escape plan. She has felt trapped before and will never allow herself to feel that way again. She needs the comfort of an exit strategy, just in case. The damage she carries causes her to feel like the only person she can rely on is herself.

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Prove her wrong. You probably won’t need to slay any dragons, but she needs to know that you would.

You cannot seek to tame her. She will not be forced into a watered-down version of herself to satisfy the ideals of a weak man. She needs room to roam and the freedom to be who she is. If she feels too constricted, she will rebel against it. She is not docile or submissive and doesn’t need to be doted upon. If she feels she isn’t seen as an equal, she won’t hesitate to break away.

Her imagination runs rampant, which provides her with a vast amount of creativity if it’s directed in the right place. It can also cause serious anxiety if it’s not being channeled correctly. If you can figure out how to alleviate that anxiety and redirect her in a positive direction, you’ll solve the puzzle of her mind.

A love like this won’t always be easy, but I promise you’ll never be bored.

Author: Natasha Link